HOW TO FORGIVE WHEN YOU DON’T REALLY WANT TO

“Freedom is what you do with what’s been done to you.” ~Jean Paul Sartre

Like so many other women, I had a complicated, often fractious relationship with my mother. I had moved thousands of miles away, but an email or a phone call was enough to irritate me.

Visits were tense, nail-biting experiences, where I couldn’t help but analyze each thing that she said to see if it contained a passive-aggressive double meaning, at which point, an argument would brew.

For years, it had not mattered what anyone told me about how to forgive, and they had told me a lot:

• Resentment is the poison you feed yourself, hoping someone else will die.
• Forgiveness is a choice.
• Refusing to forgive is living in the past.

I thought I wanted to forgive her. I knew what it was costing me to carry around the resentment, the replaying of old arguments and the anticipation of future conflict.

Yet—yet—something in me didn’t want to forgive, and this was the truth that I had resisted owning for so very long.http://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-forgive-when-you-dont-really-want-to/

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12 Lessons To Learn From Highly Successful People

The only work that will ultimately bring any good to any of us is the work of contributing to the healing of the world.” Marianne Williamson

Success can mean different things to different people, and I noticed that many of us have some kind of resistance to the word success, even though deep down inside, that is exactly what we all want, to live a successful and meaningful life.

Observing the world and from reading the stories of the many great men and women that lived and still live on this planet, I noticed that many of the highly successful people are in a way or another living by the same set of “golden rules.”

Today I will share with you a few of the lessons we can all learn from these people, as I am sure many of us will find them very empowering, helping us live a more inspiring, balanced, happier and successful life. Ready? Let’s start: http://www.purposefairy.com/5227/12-lessons-to-learn-from-highly-successful-people/

How Sexually Satisfied Are You?!

Sex Life Satisfaction: FITNESS Magazine & Yahoo! Shine Survey Looks At Sexual Satisfaction Amongst Americans

How satisfied are we with our sex lives? And what do we really want in the bedroom? These aren’t new questions, but they’re the ones that FITNESS Magazineand Yahoo! Shine sought to answer when they conducted a survey of American adults focusing on their “between the sheets” thoughts, desires and behaviors.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/05/16/sex-life-satisfaction-americans-fitness-magazine-yahoo-shine-survey_n_1522417.html?ref=women&ir=Women&ncid=

Ea O Ka Aina: Japan tsunami aftertaste

Ea O Ka Aina: Japan tsunami aftertaste: SUBHEAD: A staggering mess as Japanese tsunami debris hits Alaska coaTens of thousands of miles of coastline from California to the Aleutian Islands are going to be hit with billions of pounds of toxic debris. NOAA’s latest estimate is that 1.5 million tons of largely plastic debris will hit the western United States coast. That is 30 billion pounds. We expect Alaska to get the largest percentage of that with much of it lodging on northern Gulf of Alaska beaches. Most of this will be plastic which is full of inherent toxic chemicals that will leach into the environment for generations.